Mystic Hawaiian customs for your beach wedding ceremony

Below are various rituals you can include in your beach wedding ceremony be it religious or nonreligious. To utilize them all would be overkill, so pick and choose the optional ones that most resonate with you.

Rare Seaside Setting (optional)

The incorporation of sea shells and starfish in a beach wedding can be a uniquely elegant touch. They can be arranged along the sand in a myriad of imaginative ways in the creation of a distinctive aisle, combined with other materials to construct a stunning arch or both. The shells and starfish are at times also arranged in what is called a “Circle of Love” in which the couple stands during the ceremony.

Arrival of Guests and Processions

As common in Hawaiian beach weddings, guests arrive hearing the mellifluous sounds of the ukulele. After most of them have been seated, the wedding officiant, customarily a Kahuna Pule a.k.a. Kahu (Hawaiian minister) adorned with a flashy, leaf haku lei (head garland) recites a mele (chant), popularly Oli Aloha, as he escorts the groom to the forefront of the proceeding. The chant translates as follows:

This is the sight for which you have longed.

Now that you have come,

Love has come with you.

There was a seeking of a loved one,

Now she is found—a mate is found

Someone with whom to share the chills of your winters

And the warmth of your summers.

Love has made a plea that you are to become united here in Hawaii.

Hawaii is a perch—a perch in the Heavens.

You two are now to become one for the day is here at last:

You are to be wed!

Next in order down the aisle are the mothers of the bride and groom with their escorts followed by the bridal party frequently including bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girl and ring bearer. As an alternative to tossing flower petals as she walks down the aisle, the young girl can scatter sea shells along the sand from a basket.

Blowing the Pu (Conch Shell)

Minister in Hawaii blowing the conch shell

The Kahu officially commences the ceremony by blowing the Pu (conch shell) in all directions representing the repelling of antagonistic spirits and the calling forth of that which is highly revered in the form of the elemental powers to attest to the majesty of the ceremony and the imminent appearance of the bride.

Subsequent to the sounding of the Pu, the bride reveals herself, traditionally walking down the aisle alone while a Hawaiian chanter performs a mele. In a mixed tradition ceremony, the bride might come down the aisle with her father, brother, other close male family members, or friend.

Words of Welcome

Once bride and groom are at the head of the proceeding, the Kahu says a few words of welcome similar to this:

Welcome to the wedding of Mary and John.

They have come here today to openly proclaim and legally bind

the love that is already in their hearts.

May the concerns of life never get in affection’s way;

Indeed, may Mary and John fall in love again each day!

Invoking the Elemental Powers (optional)

Kissing his bride after he gives her a Hawaiian flower lei

The Kahu might continue by verbally petitioning the elemental powers, to bless the union:

We implore you, fierce Spirit of Fire to be with Mary and John throughout the years destroying anything that is disruptive and inharmonious.

We summon you, O gentle Spirit of the Air that your Cool Breeze may ceaselessly allow Mary and John to exhale tension and breathe in peace.

We beseech you, vast oceans and seas that your ebb and flow may ever leave Mary and John resting together calmly upon the shore.

We request, precious Mother Earth that, through your nurturance, the seeds of Mary and John’s love may continuously blossom and thrive.

Lei Exchange Between Wedding Couple (customarily included but optional)

Hawaiian flower wedding leis
Turquoise orchid leis await on the chairs for the wedding couple to give eachother

The best man then hands a ti leaf or maile leaf lei (garland necklace) to the bride, as the maid of honor hands a white pikake, or white ginger flower lei to the groom. The bride begins this ritual by placing the long open ti leaf or maile leaf lei around the groom’s neck symbolic of him embracing her. The groom, in turn, places the shorter closed white pikake or ginger flower lei around the bride’s

Bride in Hawaii shows off her Pikake flower lei also known and jasmine flowers

neck representing the never ending circle of Aloha (i.e. love). The Kahu might introduce the exchange of the leis by saying something like:

And now bestow upon one another these leis

As part of your vow preparation

And as a symbol of your Aloha,

Meaning your love and admiration,

Following this by a cheek kiss.

All the girls having fun with the groom by holding his Hawaiian green Maile lei while he tries to kiss the newly wed bride

Lei Exchange Between Wedding Couple and Parents (Optional)

The wedding couple might also choose to present their parents with leis and a kiss on the cheek while saying to each:

Accept this lei along with my tears

For all the devotion and patience

You have shown throughout the years!

Binding of the Hands (optional)

Next, while binding the hands of the wedding couple with a maile leaf lei as a symbol of togetherness, the Kahu might say:

Hold the hand of your very best friend,

The hand that will support your worthy goals without end,

The hand that will encourage you in times of sorrow,

The hand that will rejoice with you today:

And every tomorrow.

Proclamation of Intent (necessary in Hawaii)

And now do you John/Mary take Mary/John, this day, to be your lawful wife/husband?

John and Mary respectively respond I do.

Personal Vow Exchange (optional)

The Kahu then invites the couple to repeat their creative vow(s) after him or exchange it/them by heart. An example is:


Today, I openly give to you, and you alone,

My heart, soul, mind, and understanding

I will smile with you, sigh with you,

Laugh with you, cry with you,

Indeed, in both calm and tribulation

I will embrace you without cessation

I will be faithful and never swerve

From giving you the respect you deserve

And I solemnly pledge that as we together grow old

I will all these promises uphold.

Ring Exchange (customarily included but optional)

For the ritual of the rings, the Kahu immerses a Koa bowl into the sea filling it with water. Koa is a hard wood symbolizing strength and integrity. Next, the Kahu dips a ti leaf, symbolic of prosperity and health, into the bowl of water and sprinkles the rings three times while performing a Hawaiian chant which translates:

“May peace from above rest upon you and remain with you now and forever.”

The sprinkling represents the couple’s sending any past hurts and relationship impediments back into the sea and their embracing of new beginnings as husband and wife. The couple then exchanges rings, while respectively saying something similar to:

Mary/John, receive this ring—an unending circle

And token of my Aloha forever unbroken.

Ritual of the Sand (optional)

A tender ritual that often follows the ring exchange is that of the Unity Candles where the bride and groom combine the flames from their single taper candle in the lighting of a larger one in the middle of them, symbolic of the uniting of two souls. However, since candles typically blow out when used outdoors, the lighting of the fire torches or the Hawaiian Sand Ceremony is a lovely alternative. Two small vessels, each with sand of a different color, are placed on a table with a bigger empty one in between them. For a sentimental touch, the three containers might be heart-shaped at the top with one of the smaller ones monogrammed with the name of the bride, the other with the name of the groom, and the biggest one with the surname of the soon to be newlyweds.   At the appropriate moment, the couple simultaneously pours their individual vessels into the larger one representing the integration of their two lives.

Words from the Kahu might include:

Just as once blended, these sands can never again return to their original state,

so, once wed, neither of you will ever again be the same. 

The achievable goal is that you merge your better halves

into one extraordinary whole.

Sand rituals can also be performed using an hourglass which the couple reverses each year on their anniversary to symbolize the intensification of their union as the sands mix more densely. Furthermore, additional small vessels, each with its separate color of sand, can be incorporated into the ritual to represent the uniting of families including parents, siblings, and children.

Ritual of the Seashell (optional)

Either instead of or in addition to the ritual of the sand, at the conclusion of the wedding, guests are sometimes asked to pick up a seashell, proceed to the shore, and then silently make a wish for the bride and groom while tossing the shell in the water.

Words from the Kahu for this ritual might be:

Seashells are symbols of love and prosperity.

Wish upon one for the newlyweds,

Then cast it to the sea

In the hope that their marriage will be largely carefree.

Ti Leaf and Lava Rock Ritual (optional)


Still another addition to or replacement for the Sand and Seashell rites is that of the Ti Leaf and Lava rock. As a symbol of their commitment to one another, the newlyweds wrap the lava rock in a ti leaf and leave it as an offering at the wedding site. The Kahu might introduce ritual by saying:

May this Ti Leaf and Lava Rock represent

Mary’s and John’s committal

To a life that is content.

Final Blowing of the Pu

The Kahu blows the Pu one last time to mark the end of the ceremony.

Signing of the Marriage Certificate

After the conclusion of the wedding ceremony but before the reception, the newlyweds sign the marriage certificate which is then completed by the Kahu and later filed with the state of Hawaii.

Dramatic Reception Exit (optional)

A classical and sensational closure for an outdoor reception might be the live singing of Roger Quilter’s music version of Percy Bysshe Shelley’s poem, “Love’s Philosophy” with the newlyweds exiting the gathering by embarking on a boat and sailing away while kissing during the last line of the song:

The fountains mingle with the river

And the rivers with the ocean;
The winds of heaven mix forever
With a sweet emotion;
Nothing in the world is single;
All things by a law divine
In one another’s being mingle–
Why not I with thine?

See, the mountains kiss high heaven
And the waves clasp one another;
No sister flower could be forgiven
If it disdained its brother;
And the sunlight clasps the earth,
And the moonbeams kiss the sea;–
What are all these kissings worth,
If thou kiss not me?


Carse, Lisa. “Hawaiian Wedding Customs and Traditions.”

Grant, Maribeth. “The Traditional Hawaiian Wedding Ceremony.”

Heiderstadt, Donna. “Hawaiian Wedding Ceremony.”

Lanikuhonua Estate wedding timeline

For the wedding on September  2017
Information and planning coordination
Lanikuhonua Estate
Marie & Nate

Mariedelle Tingson & Nathan Santella Wedding Day Timeline Friday,
September 8, 2017 Ceremony & Reception: Lanikuhonua Phase 2
92-1101 Ali’I Nui Drive, Kapolei, HI 96707

9:00am Day-of coordinator, Lei Draper,
on site at Lanikuhonua Accel Party Rentals
(via The Catering Connection) arrives to begin setting up tenting

9:45am Photographer/video arrives at Sheraton Waikiki to capture
Photographer/video captures bride & bridesmaids getting ready
{ photographer will stay with bride and travel with her in the limo }

10:00am Florist delivers personal flowers to Sheraton Waikiki
10:30am Har & makeup begins for bride & bridesmaids

10:45am to 12:15pm : 2nd Photographer/video captures
with Nate and his groomsmen
*Have invitation, rings, shoes, etc. ready for detail shots

11:00am Ceremony coordinator, Paul Agung, arrives to Lanikuhonua
12:00pm The Catering Connection & Main Rentals arrives

12:30pm Bride’s hair & makeup complete. Put on dress.

1:00pm Photo/video takes photos with bridal party at Sheraton

1:30pm DJ Troy Michael arrives

2:00pm Bride & bridesmaids return to room to freshen up
2:15pm Party bus for groom & groomsmen departs Sheraton
2:20pm : Royal star shuttle Bus pickup
2:30pm Duke’s limo picks up bride & bridesmaids and departs Sheraton
3:30pm Groom & groomsmen arrive to Lanikuhonua Officiant,
Elias Parker, arrives to Lanikuhonua Royal Star shuttle bus arrives with guests
3:45pm Duke’s Limo arrives with bride & bridesmaids (keep bride in limo)

4:00pm Ceremony begins
4:30pm Ceremony ends & cocktail hour begins Family & group photos
Relocate ceremony chairs to reception tent Relocate ceremony lanterns & floral to reception tables

Reception Timeline

5-5:15pm Cake Works delivers wedding cake
5:30pm Guests seated for dinner reception 5:40pm Welcome by DJ/emcee Troy
5:45pm Grand entrance of bridal party & new Mr. & Mrs.
Jaz Baba & Mico Flores
Rachel Manansala & Ferdinand Dacasin
Jovie Tingson & Jordan Valdez
Charlize Lacida & Bryan Roxas
Marjorie Tingson (MOH) & Francis Anamos (BM)
Mariedelle & Nate “New Mr. & Mrs. _______________”
5:50pm First dance
5:55pm Blessing by Jeralyn Albino

6:00pm Dinner buffet open Table release order: 1 & 2 first, then open Bride & groom take photos with each table as they are released to the buffet. Put two chairs on dance floor. Hawaiian entertainment begins (1 hour)
6:30pm Bride & groom sunset photos
6:40pm Sunset 6:45pm Bride & groom return from sunset photos. Served dinner.
7:05pm Pour champagne/cider for taosts
7:15pm Hawaiian entertainment finish
7:15pm Program begins Best man speech Maid of honor speech Bride & groom thank you speech Cake cutting (no need to save top tier. Cut & serve to guests) Bouquet toss Garter toss Money dance ~
8:00pm Program finish. Open dancing
9:45pm Last call for drinks
9:55pm Last song
10:00pm Event finish. Breakdown begins Accel Party Rentals returns to break down tenting
11:30pm All rental items picked up and vendors off property

These are the flower head leis chosen for the
4 flowers girls  , plus 4 flower baskets filled with flowers
to be brought to the Hotel for pre wedding photos

5 bridesmaids head leis without the daisy flowers plus one more
for the bride Marie to wear during the reception

More Hawaiian style of Haku flower head leis :

Main flowers and themed used for Marie’s wedding

Flower samples that will be used for the wedding

Bridesmaids bouquets , bright vibrant Hawaiian flowers

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Floras of the Islands

Stunning bright vibrant and royal the flowers and fauna of Hawaii

Plumeria themed wedding in Hawaii

Nature lovers would definitely adore Hawaii. It is home to numerous fragrant flowers, abundant vegetation as well as some interesting plant life. There are several botanical gardens and parks that actually showcase the variety of Flora found in the state. Travelers could unwind by strolling around various gardens and catch a glimpse of these beautiful plants. Listed below are a few of the dazzling Flora found in Hawaii:

The Birds of Paradise are originally from Africa, but they have evolved into something like a Hawaiian trademark. These are clearly identifiable by their characteristic vibrant blue and orange blossoms set in grayish-green bracts, which make them appear as if the flowers are birds ready to take flight.The aisle of this Hawaii beach wedding is lined with Birds of Paradise

Birds of Paradise wedding

The African Tulip Trees could actually grow up to over 50 feet in height. From a distance, travelers would still be able to see its bright red flowers. The flowers’ buds could hold water that is why the local kids love to play with these flowers and to use them as water pistols.

There exist over 1,400 species of Bromeliads, which is the name that the pineapple plant is commonly known as. Hawaiian natives also call these plants as Bromes and they are usually prickly plants that differ in size. These are extremely famous for their unique foliage as well as their unusual and magnificent flowers. One would be able to find the Bromeliads on all the islands of Hawaii, and they are extensively used for interior decoration and landscaping, most notably in the resort areas.

King Protea Hawaiian floral grown on the volcano on Maui

The Macadamia is another pride of Hawaii, even if they initially came from Australia. The Big Island and Maui grow these trees and as a matter of fact, the macadamia nuts have recently turned into a profitable crop in Hawaii. These huge trees could grow up to staggering 60 feet high, and they also carry tough-shelled nuts that are enclosed in a somewhat leathery husk that cracks open and dries once the nuts are already ripe.

The sole state that manufactures coffee commercially is Hawaii. The Coffee is an evergreen plant that possesses waxy, glossy, dark green as well as very pointed leaves. Its flowers are tiny, sweet-smelling white blossoms that mature into half inch berries that would change into bright red once they are ripe. Tourists could search for coffee at a height of more than 1,500 feet on Kona at Hawaii’s Big Island. Guests could also tour huge coffee plantations found on Maui, Molokai, Kauai, and Oahu.

Orchids are also closely linked to the state. The most vastly grown orchid variety as well as the chief source of blossoms for creating leis is the Vanda Orchid. These are usually either white or even lavender, but they also develop in an assortment of colors, sizes and shapes. The variety of orchids that is utilized when making corsages is the huge and fragile Cattleya. Those that are used for floral arrangements are generally the Dendrobiums variety. When travelers are on the Big Island, they should not miss on an opportunity to explore the countless orchid farms located in Hilo.

Tropical Hawaiian orchid bouquet of many colors and styles

There are still numerous plant species that one would be able to find in Hawaii. These are undoubtedly striking and would leave a great impression on any visitor.

At the beach location in Hawaii of Waimanalo the bride hold pink plumeria


Readings We Would Like

We know the first reading is a popular one and there are many versions but this is a specific one we would like to be read exactly like this. Could you pass these on to Rev. Alan when you can ,Thanks again

First reading/prayer:
Love is always patient and kind. It is never jealous. Love is never boastful or conceited.
It is never rude or selfish. It does not take offence and is not resentful.
It does not take pleasure in other peoples sins, but delights in the truth.
It is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever comes.

End reading :
The morning sunrise spread her wings ,While the moon hung in the sky.
Held the sea in your hands And happy everafter in your eyes .
Couldn’t leave you to go to heaven I carry you in my smile.
For the first time my true reflection i see Happy everafter in your eyes.
Every star in the night Promises the dawn, I will be there if you fall ,To ever so heavily rest upon All that i can give you Is forever yours to keep.
Wake up every day with a dream And happyever after in your eyes

Chris and Summer Basic Wedding Info

ARCHWAY:BAMBOO WITH LAVENDER(sheer)/FUSHIA(India inspired sheer)WHITE(sheer)
GUEST IN TOTAL(not including bride & groom):16 + BABY(NEPHEW)
LEIS: PURPLE AND WHITE(whatever you think is best)
MUSIC: Song that is played when this link is opened
NOTES FOR MUSICIANS: Play song with uke without singing until bride starts walking(then sing)keep song slow don’t speed up as the song does on website.Keep playing that music throughout ceremony quietly in background(just uke no singing)
FIRST DANCE IN SAND: Somewhere over the rainbow/wonderful world by:Israel Kamakawiwo Ole’

EXTRAS: COULPES MASSAGE(for bride and groom)
NOTE ON STYLE OF WEDDING: We love the Moroccan/India or Spanish styles of weddings. Any influence that may make the look of the wedding more ethnic would be great.
The Bridesmaids are wearing dresses with a moroccan pattern and bangles for bracelets on their rists.Just to give you an idea.